The problem with Pinterest and wedding blogs is that they create unrealistic expectations and put too much pressure on weddings. It is so easy to get caught up in looking at all the beautiful photos that you forget that you are looking at the prettiest photos from over 2 Million weddings that take place each year. Stop and think about that. The most popular photos on the Pinterest (and therefore the one most likely pinned to one of your boards) are the best photos from multiple MILLIONS of weddings (just in the U.S.) in the last few years. As wedding blogs and Pinterest have become more popular I’ve seen a change in weddings over the last five years. Brides have become more focused on the details of the day… on trying to make sure that their wedding is Style Me Pretty worthy. They worry about how perfect their fiancee’s reaction will be during the first look. If there is one thing I wish that all of my couples could remember it’s that all of that pressure and focus on being perfect is not worth it. I have worked weddings that had six figure budgets and others that had almost no budget. And they are ALL beautiful. I mean that. The beauty at a wedding comes from the joy. It comes from celebrating a marriage with the people you love. It doesn’t not come from the perfect escort cards or the exact color ribbon. Those details truly don’t matter. And when you look back on your photos in 10 or 20 or even more years the ones that will mean the most to you are the ones that show you with your family. The ones that show the joy and relationships… not what shoes you wore.
If I could offer any advice to couples planning their wedding it would be to stop looking at pinterest and wedding blogs. To stop caring about having all the things and focus on your relationship. Be yourself, be relaxed, and enjoy the day that will be perfect, Rain or shine, because it is the day that your marriage begins.